People need to stand up for themselves because we all, as human beings, deserve this: EVERYONE deserves to get their needs met. We all do. (:
Share expenses
Socialize with others
Be treated with respect
End the date at any time
Share in decision-making
Talk things out
Say "NO" to anything
Have your own opinion
Trust
Not be victimized by violence
Be free from expected paybacks
Choose whom you want to date
Be treated honestly
Be safe and feel safe
Break up
Have privacy
Control what you do with your body
Decide how serious you want your relationship to be
Be yourself/do what is best for you
Expect more than a physical relationship
Date other people
Be treated with courtesy
Express your feelings and emotions
Have an opportunity to explain yourself
Communicate openly
Defend yourself
Maintain other relationships and activities
Be treated as an equal
Be free from pressure
Change you mind
WE ALL SHARE
THE RESPONSIBILITY
TO RESPECT THE RIGHTS
OF OTHERS!
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Monday, November 16, 2009
:)
California Science Center. "When are you cuming?" Shrimp Fettuccine Alfredo. Jazz &Melo. Walks in the park. Street Fighter 4. Buying my first car. Learning to drive stick. Driving stick. fixing cars. Technology. EeePC. mani-pedis. Natalie Portman's Closer-wig. SUPRISE! "Jin Sang" 3yr old Star Wars Girl. San Diego vacation. Rick Roll in Vegas. Thumpper. Kisses for no reason. Cuddling. Ganesha Park. Scissoring (just kidding!). 2008 Valentine's Day. my Canon! Starbucks study shifts. Random visits to Martin's house. Random trips to Ryan's house. Daikokuya. Palm<3. Family game days. Thanksgiving. Late night cravings/adventures. Oktoberfest/PUKEfest. THINK Together. Sleeping in.
These things make me happy. So much more tooo!
These things make me happy. So much more tooo!
Little girl, big imagination.
I just woke up from a great sleep.
I hadn't slept so great the past two nights. Come to think of it, I didn't sleep at all for almost 40 hours because of this overwhelming passion that I have. It's something so strong and so big. The strength that you see emanating from me is in fact strong passion for love, for loving people, loving my friends, my family, myself. That's all it is, I'm just loving all the time. This love is so overpowering it's hard for me to hold in, and for the past two years I'd direct most of my attention to who was (at the time) my S.O., so the frequencies of my thoughts and my emotions were traveling up and down large, pressured waves towards him.
We can say that this was bound to happen sooner or later or that our time has come to move on, and any other vague, cliche statements, but I honestly believe that it was the unbearable, suppressed issues and illnesses we had manifesting inside our souls that soon ate us up and tore us into pieces, and it surfaced into a searing sore that took control of us both and made its jurisdiction. It was the negativity that we masked under all the smiles and the laughter. It controlled us so we couldn't control ourselves. Now it's time to take control. It's time to fight for my life again. I will not die -- won't let this consume me.
I hadn't slept so great the past two nights. Come to think of it, I didn't sleep at all for almost 40 hours because of this overwhelming passion that I have. It's something so strong and so big. The strength that you see emanating from me is in fact strong passion for love, for loving people, loving my friends, my family, myself. That's all it is, I'm just loving all the time. This love is so overpowering it's hard for me to hold in, and for the past two years I'd direct most of my attention to who was (at the time) my S.O., so the frequencies of my thoughts and my emotions were traveling up and down large, pressured waves towards him.
We can say that this was bound to happen sooner or later or that our time has come to move on, and any other vague, cliche statements, but I honestly believe that it was the unbearable, suppressed issues and illnesses we had manifesting inside our souls that soon ate us up and tore us into pieces, and it surfaced into a searing sore that took control of us both and made its jurisdiction. It was the negativity that we masked under all the smiles and the laughter. It controlled us so we couldn't control ourselves. Now it's time to take control. It's time to fight for my life again. I will not die -- won't let this consume me.
Monday, October 12, 2009
Longest Stretch
Everyone needs to update. We know this, but we've all grown busy -- becoming responsible adults. While it's true that I have been very busy cleaning up a mess my parents created for me, I don't really believe that's the reason I haven't really written.
I think that I no longer blog because I have no confidence in my writing. I mean, how do I compare with my talented friends? It's the same reason why I don't use my Spanish, even though I'm almost, ALMOST fluent. I'm just not confident whatsoever in my speech, thus I tend to keep quiet.
It's an interesting connection I've made to explain this phenomenon of keeping quiet. It starts off in the beginnings of my life when I was just a shy, little girl that -- well, come on let's face it -- wasn't very social or known, rather. First of all, English was my second language even though Chinese and Tagalog (being the first languages I learned) are no longer a part of me. Also, I was taught to believe by the action of hitting (my parents to me) that I was below par from anyone else I'd known. And, if I ever felt a defying moment where I was confident enough to say something worth paying some attention to, it was deemed "talking back," and I was slapped upside the head to keep quiet.
So now even at the unhappiest moments of my life, I am cautious. I don't want to tell the stories of what I've gone through in part because I feel it is embarrassing, and mostly because I feel like others will judge me as some rotten, low life who deserves this punishment.
Anyway, as negative as this sounds, logically I know that feelings do not always tell the truth. So NO, I don't believe that I am in a lower position that anyone else, but it is really hard to keep moving when invalidating forces keep pushing so hard. The important thing is to continue onward. One step forward, ten steps back. I'll fall down 7 times, but I'll get up 8.
I think that I no longer blog because I have no confidence in my writing. I mean, how do I compare with my talented friends? It's the same reason why I don't use my Spanish, even though I'm almost, ALMOST fluent. I'm just not confident whatsoever in my speech, thus I tend to keep quiet.
It's an interesting connection I've made to explain this phenomenon of keeping quiet. It starts off in the beginnings of my life when I was just a shy, little girl that -- well, come on let's face it -- wasn't very social or known, rather. First of all, English was my second language even though Chinese and Tagalog (being the first languages I learned) are no longer a part of me. Also, I was taught to believe by the action of hitting (my parents to me) that I was below par from anyone else I'd known. And, if I ever felt a defying moment where I was confident enough to say something worth paying some attention to, it was deemed "talking back," and I was slapped upside the head to keep quiet.
So now even at the unhappiest moments of my life, I am cautious. I don't want to tell the stories of what I've gone through in part because I feel it is embarrassing, and mostly because I feel like others will judge me as some rotten, low life who deserves this punishment.
Anyway, as negative as this sounds, logically I know that feelings do not always tell the truth. So NO, I don't believe that I am in a lower position that anyone else, but it is really hard to keep moving when invalidating forces keep pushing so hard. The important thing is to continue onward. One step forward, ten steps back. I'll fall down 7 times, but I'll get up 8.
Friday, August 28, 2009
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Inglourious Basterds is a 2009 revenge war film written and directed by Quentin Tarantino released by the Weinstein Company and Universal Pictures this past weekend. Italian director Enzo Castellari's 1978 film, The Inglorious Bastards acted as inspiratin to this motion picture; however the 2009 Title is not a remake of the film being set in Nazi-occupied France during World War II with plans to assassinate Nazi Leadership.
Despite its being a war film, Tarantino has constructed the film to be "his spaghetti western" with World War II iconography. I find it almost difficult to describe the movie without feeling the BIG O because it tickles my fancy to combine like with like. In addition to spaghetti westerns (as Tarentino's interest in Castellari's title suggests) he also pays homage to the World War II "macaroni combat" as well as French New Wave cinema.
Pretty much the theme that is most recognizable in the film is revenge. Taking place in an alternative history of WW2, in which the Basterds spread their popularity throughout Europe with a goal to assassinate Nazi forces. Simultaneously a second force, Shosanna (Melanie Laurent) aims to unite the higher ups of the party to defeat them as well. Both parties know nothing about their united efforts. The plot tangles itself into a beautiful masterpiece, and simply unravels at the end.
Go see Inglourious Basterds now! It will definitely blow you away.
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Ubuntu
I've had the honor of hearing this word over and over: Ubuntu -- and I honor this recurring voice who keeps reminding me of the term because of it's cherished meaning.
Instances of where I've heard the African word Ubuntu:
1. Referring to the "Ubuntu" distribution of Linux computer software
2. My brother's graduation -- a kid gave a speech about the concept behind Ubuntu.
It is impossible right? for any word to have no meaning. For a good while, I continued on believing that Ubuntu was a catchy, made-up word having with no substance. I thought of it as many of us think our names have no real substance -- "It's just a name!" you say.
It wasn't until this past Friday, when a kid in my brother's class -- the Salutatorian -- gave a speech about the connection each person with each other. He talked about the impact each individual has on society because of our connection. We must not think of humanity as a formation of isolated individuals; rather, we are all connected by each other's influence, impact, frequency.
A person with Ubuntu is open and available to others, affirming of others, does not feel threatened that others are able and good, for he or she has a proper self-assurance that comes from knowing that he or she belongs in a greater whole and is diminished when others are humiliated or diminished, when others are tortured or oppressed.
One of the sayings in our country is Ubuntu - the essence of being human. Ubuntu speaks particularly about the fact that you can't exist as a human being in isolation. It speaks about our interconnectedness. You can't be human all by yourself, and when you have this quality - Ubuntu - you are known for your generosity.
We think of ourselves far too frequently as just individuals, separated from one another, whereas you are connected and what you do affects the whole world. When you do well, it spreads out; it is for the whole of humanity.
These ideas really caught my eye because in the midst of all these experiences I've been having, comes a solution. An answer. A definition of a word that I've heard before that I never ever thought about. It was a connection from first hearing the word from Soch, to finding out the definition from this kid, to my own research on the concepts behind Ubuntu.
Hearing about a concept when you're naive (and you've reached the bar of higher understanding) and then trying to piece it together with no way of understanding the concept. This is where we'll have problems with no aid -- I vaguely remember Dr. Drew from Love Line saying these (almost) exact words last night. It makes total sense to me today. Everyday, I learn about my flaws and my good traits as a study how I interact with certain individuals -- at work, at school, in public arenas, but finally, someone steps into my busy schedule to explain the meaning of all this. They explain the material. Make it easier for me to understand why I go through these life lessons. Why I am so important to others, and why (even when I think that I couldn't possibly learn from the "stupidest" of all people) those people are important to me.
I know we all don't get along. We've got wars going on -- big ones and little ones. We don't like x,y,z about girl#1. We don't understand why people criticize us, try to cripple us. Some of us are creeps, some of us are black, white, red, yellow, whatever. We're all different, and our differences should not make us feel we must isolate ourselves because we are all essentially human beings who will in the smallest of ways impact lives. And this is a perfect segway to end my discussion. I'll end it with a quote from Mother Theresa:
"Small things with great love... It's not how much we do, but how much love we put into the doing. And it is not how much we give, but how much love we put into the giving. To God there is nothing small."
Instances of where I've heard the African word Ubuntu:
1. Referring to the "Ubuntu" distribution of Linux computer software
2. My brother's graduation -- a kid gave a speech about the concept behind Ubuntu.
It is impossible right? for any word to have no meaning. For a good while, I continued on believing that Ubuntu was a catchy, made-up word having with no substance. I thought of it as many of us think our names have no real substance -- "It's just a name!" you say.
It wasn't until this past Friday, when a kid in my brother's class -- the Salutatorian -- gave a speech about the connection each person with each other. He talked about the impact each individual has on society because of our connection. We must not think of humanity as a formation of isolated individuals; rather, we are all connected by each other's influence, impact, frequency.
A person with Ubuntu is open and available to others, affirming of others, does not feel threatened that others are able and good, for he or she has a proper self-assurance that comes from knowing that he or she belongs in a greater whole and is diminished when others are humiliated or diminished, when others are tortured or oppressed.
One of the sayings in our country is Ubuntu - the essence of being human. Ubuntu speaks particularly about the fact that you can't exist as a human being in isolation. It speaks about our interconnectedness. You can't be human all by yourself, and when you have this quality - Ubuntu - you are known for your generosity.
We think of ourselves far too frequently as just individuals, separated from one another, whereas you are connected and what you do affects the whole world. When you do well, it spreads out; it is for the whole of humanity.
These ideas really caught my eye because in the midst of all these experiences I've been having, comes a solution. An answer. A definition of a word that I've heard before that I never ever thought about. It was a connection from first hearing the word from Soch, to finding out the definition from this kid, to my own research on the concepts behind Ubuntu.
Hearing about a concept when you're naive (and you've reached the bar of higher understanding) and then trying to piece it together with no way of understanding the concept. This is where we'll have problems with no aid -- I vaguely remember Dr. Drew from Love Line saying these (almost) exact words last night. It makes total sense to me today. Everyday, I learn about my flaws and my good traits as a study how I interact with certain individuals -- at work, at school, in public arenas, but finally, someone steps into my busy schedule to explain the meaning of all this. They explain the material. Make it easier for me to understand why I go through these life lessons. Why I am so important to others, and why (even when I think that I couldn't possibly learn from the "stupidest" of all people) those people are important to me.
I know we all don't get along. We've got wars going on -- big ones and little ones. We don't like x,y,z about girl#1. We don't understand why people criticize us, try to cripple us. Some of us are creeps, some of us are black, white, red, yellow, whatever. We're all different, and our differences should not make us feel we must isolate ourselves because we are all essentially human beings who will in the smallest of ways impact lives. And this is a perfect segway to end my discussion. I'll end it with a quote from Mother Theresa:
"Small things with great love... It's not how much we do, but how much love we put into the doing. And it is not how much we give, but how much love we put into the giving. To God there is nothing small."
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